Do you believe that you can change your mindset?
Yes, you can. When you practise a growth mindset, your beliefs can change your behaviour.
I’ll use the iceberg model to illustrate this.
Anatomy of an Iceberg
You’ve probably seen an iceberg, if not in real life then through pictures or movies like The
Titanic. So, you must know that the part of the iceberg under the water causes a whole
bunch of problems and is responsible for a lot of things that happen.
When you apply the iceberg model on the mindset perspective, you touch on the topic of
behaviours and beliefs.
Behaviours make up the tip of the iceberg, while beliefs make up the rest of the iceberg
under the surface.
Behaviours and Beliefs
Behaviours include your goals, visions, values and strategies—whether it's personal or your organisation’s. These are what you do and where you think you get all the work and results
done. It’s also what people see.
In this age of social media, the highlight reels that people see in different platforms are also
just the tip of the iceberg.
Underneath the water is the big chunk of your beliefs—all the turmoil and actual stuff that
make you behave the way that you do like assumptions, norms, limiting beliefs, culture,
perceptions, stories, conditioning, feelings, and unwritten rules.
In other words, your conscious mind is your behaviours and your subconscious mind is your
Since it makes up a large part of your mindset, your beliefs can dictate your behaviour.
The Power of Beliefs
You unconsciously imbibe many of the components of beliefs as you grow older and this is
what makes it so powerful. You don’t know or realise that you’re developing something that
affects how you act and think. But once you are conscious of these beliefs, then you can do
something about it.
Let’s take for example stories.
According to nutritional biochemist Dr Libby Weaver, one of the biggest drivers for stress is
the stories that you tell yourself. It’s that internal monologue that governs so much of your
daily thoughts that are probably not true.
Dr Weaver’s research shows that if you can get a handle on it and tell yourself “Stop, this
isn’t true and this is just my mind going completely out of control” then your stress levels will
go down. If your stress levels go down, you become physically and mentally healthier.
A Tip to Get a Handle on Your Inner Monologue
Your inner monologue can affect your behaviours. It can stop you from doing many things by
telling you that it’s scary to go beyond your comfort zone or you’re not good enough to take
on a new project.
When it’s knocking on your eardrum and whispering things to you, ask yourself this: Is this
More often than not, you’ll find that those thoughts are not true. When you start recognising
this fact, you can stop those thoughts in their tracks.
There are different ways to do this.
I tell my mind to cancel those thoughts and tell it what to think of instead.
Another method is to write them down via pen and paper. The act of writing gets the
thoughts out of your subconscious and the act of reading helps you recognise the truth
behind what you’ve written.
When you’ve gotten a handle on your thoughts and your mindset, then you can start creating
new beliefs. These new, more positive beliefs can then change your behaviours for the
Do you have a unique way to stop those pesky inner monologues, share them with me.